Rosa María Vicens Escandell
Professor specialist in Educational Orientation (SPE A-11)
One day knocked on the door of my office at one of the centers that attend ... I was a child of 7 years, opened the door and said: "Please, can I have a hug?". I just thought ... what are we doing wrong? And, of course, he went with his embrace.
How many times have you rubbed the tripita to your children when they complained of pain ?, How many times have you put your hand on your forehead when they had vomiting ?, How many times have you put your hand on your back when you cough on a cold winter night ? ...
Have you ever thought about why you sought contact with them when they were unwell ?, why that hand produced an improvement in them? Human contact produces these effects, we are socialized and socializing beings, We seek contact with others because we feel alone, because we need others to live, we need others because it is the means we have to demonstrate our belonging to this great social group called humanity.
Society, learning and changing value systems make increasingly more ostensible form rehuyamos contact with others, so we're going individualizing to the point that we felt isolated as members of a group that hardly communicate, feel barely, barely rub.
Children, his naivete, his lack of prejudice, lack of programming feel they lack something they can not explain, a hug, a sign of affection, feeling loved, feeling valued, accepted, loved ... Adults have lost / hidden / repressed the ability we have to communicate through our body, the proximity, we thought that what differentiates us from other species of the animal kingdom is intelligence, and, allow dissents, what differentiates us from the rest of the animal kingdom is the ability to feel and to understand and express those feelings, the ability to give a hug, a kiss, a caress, aware that what we are doing is an act of love. Too many prejudices, too busy with our stuff to take our children into his arms and caress the hair, hug them, tell them how much we love them, too worried about the notes, performance, studies, mortgage, within the car, the boss ... too "busy" to deal with the emotional well-being of our children.
I will not give advice, but I would not want that one day you arrepintierais not have done all those things, I do not like that when you ask a child what she wants most in the world I answer a hug from her father, I would not want to have children as "socialized" they were not able to give and show love ...
Emotional problems are the highest percentage of the problems that everyday have our children and our youth ... the emotions are repressed and this creates an interpersonal conflict that accompanies the human being throughout his existence.
Life is much more than knowledge, life is filled with small things, if you are at home, if you come now to your home tired from a hard day's work, get close to your children, take them in your arms, strong abrazadlos, with warmth , feeling and tell them how much you love them, give them the opportunity to do the same with you; Otherwise, you will come.