During the summer we all enjoy more time for leisure, rest and free time; We usually share more moments with our loved ones. In the case of couples, those who enjoy some stability and do not have major problems, summer vacations can be very beneficial; but, in the case of couples who have been dragging problems and conflicts throughout the year, they can live these moments as highly negative.
We already know that we live in a truly neurotic society, where anxiety and stress are the order of the day, and where these two issues are dangerously seen with almost total and absolute normality. The house, the children, the work, the car, the daily chores, and an endless number of other things, make us immersed daily in a non-stop where we are running from one place to another, without ever having a few moments of peace and quiet to put our ideas in order, and know what may or may not be working in our relationship.
With the arrival of summer, free time increases, and a new routine is created, different from that of the winter season. This new routine can lead to changing the habits and feelings of the couple, which already brings with it previous problems. You notice the lack of attachment and things in common with greater intensity. From deciding the place of summer vacations, family or couple activities, economic problems, unresolved marital situations, personal insecurities, own frustrations, the distribution of household chores, etc. they can cause the relationship to suffer even more and that everything ends up exploding. Perhaps due to a lack of habit of sharing time together and as a couple or a lack of understanding of its members to listen to the needs and priorities of the other, these relationships work unfortunately to failure.
It is recommended to allow at least one month after the holidays and return to normal activities before making decisions that can change our lives. Letting this little time go by, you can see things more clearly, clearing up conflicts that may be unfounded and that stalked the couple during the holidays.
Verónica Monsonís Far
Master in Clinical Psychology