As promised, in this month I write about happiness in the couple: THE HAPPY COUPLE It has two characteristics that are satisfaction and stability. A relationship can be very satisfying but fleeting. And you may have lived several years with a person without having shared almost nothing.
If we want a relationship is satisfactory and stable it is necessary to grow almost daily and this also means knowing how to adapt to changes of all kinds: good and bad ... but frequent and continuous.
There is another important point, which is that of maintain individuality. Living with a person does not have to involve a total dependence on it. Sometimes, the reason for staying together is by necessity or economic interest, social image or having children.
Maintain individuality means keep your own tastes and interestsSo the relationship can be a constant exchange and is a couple of their own volition, without obligations.
And if they have helped each other to achieve one's goals both inside and outside the relationship that binds even more.
This level of individuality must be reconciled with the demands of living together, but maybe we were talking about selfishness.
Tips:
- Maintain a degree of attractiveness to the other, in order to be more desirable than other alternatives.
- Learn to meet the needs of the couple, so that the home does not become a hotel in which a room is shared.
- Share leisure, housework, communicate ...
- Mutual respect and admiration, which constitute the motivation and incentive to continue with each other.
Happy couples work by the principle of positive reciprocity and the problematic couples create a vicious circle in which they refuse to do the nice things that the other likes, because he / she does not do the things that you like.
If you serve something said, because you what ye remain and put into practice if you want.
Youngs less than 30 years: as I said, if you have quibbles or problemones the couple from consultation Jove you can lend a hand. See you soon.
Maite Ahuir, psychologist Llunàtics
Consultajove@ayto-denia.es
96 642 37 00
